I just came to the realization that finding our place in the world is much like trying on jeans.

Think about it. We go through these phases in life where everything just feels right. Regardless of how worn or imperfect, we know that it’s a fit, and feel content…despite any flaws. Then there are those moments when things don’t feel the same. It’s as if the jeans have shrunk or we have gained a few pounds, and all of the sudden the perfect fit becomes constricting and feels claustrophobic.

It’s one of the worst feelings in the world. It confirms for us that something has changed. Usually we are aware of the change as is taking place because it’s an active, obvious change. However, when it’s something that is sudden, it can blindside is. It’s like trying on a pair of skinny jeans when we were expecting relaxed fit. Our reaction is “What the hell?” and we scramble to look for a tag or label, anything that can indicate that the issue isn’t us, but some times it is.

We need to be okay with trying things on, and understand that the first is not always the best fit. At the same time, it would be wreckless to discard a great fit when it’s us that needs to change. It could be your job, your marraige, your friendship… It could be anything.

Change is an essential part of life, so we must be flexible enough to know when to give an extra tug and when it’s just not us anymore. Read More